85: Stay in Your Own Lane
Your Virtual Upline Podcast
Bob Heilig
4.9 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 25 May 2018
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
Comparing yourself with others kills your authenticity
Have you ever found yourself comparing what you're doing in your business to the people around you, and falling into the negative space of 'comparitis'? I know that I've been guilty of that in my own business. What I've noticed is that the more I look at what other people are doing, it starts to create negative thoughts and energy in my own mind. I always look at what others are doing, and wonder if what I'm doing is good enough. What I've found over time, is this actually begins to kill your own authenticity.
It's time to create some space for you to be yourself
I once heard on a podcast called 'Making Oprah', where Oprah was asked how she maintained her own authenticity, with all the competition that was popping up on daytime TV. I thought her answer was so profound. She simply said that they had this policy called "Stay in Your Own Lane". She said that she never once ever watched a single episode of her competitors. That answer literally floored me… and it empowered me to make a decision that has had a profound effect on my life. I stopped paying attention to what everyone else around me was doing, and started to create pace for me to be who I really am, and create authentic content on social media.
So join me in this episode as I share to you some action plans on how to do that, how I got inspiration from other people outside my space, and finally, how to be confident and be yourself.
Episode Quotes
"Anytime I started taking my eye off the ball in my own court and looking what other people were doing... it created a lot of negative energy in my head"
"Stay in your own lane... I never in my life watched a single episode of one of our competitors" - Oprah
"The best compliment I can ever get from someone is this - 'You are not like anyone else that does this'"
"Start creating some space for you to be yourself because you are good enough"
Listen to Learn
00:20 Episode intro
01:20 What I've been up to in the last three weeks
03:39 The negative impact of comparing yourself with other people on social media
06:40 My podcast experience - how Oprah's answer about authenticity impacted me
09:23 Why I "unfollowed" others on Facebook
10:49 The powerful effect of being authentic and being yourself
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Your Virtual Uline Podcast. |
| 0:04.0 | What is up everybody? I am back and it feels good for another episode of five minute Friday. So today I want to share a concept |
| 0:18.7 | with you that I call stay in your own lane. |
| 0:24.8 | Any of you that are listening to this right now |
| 0:27.2 | that have ever struggled with comparing yourself |
| 0:32.3 | to other people on social media. |
| 0:35.0 | If you're out there doing live videos |
| 0:38.0 | and you always struggle with seeing other people doing different things, |
| 0:42.0 | maybe there are other leaders that are on your team, |
| 0:45.1 | your uplines, sidelines, whatever, |
| 0:47.4 | and you just question yourself and say, man, |
| 0:49.5 | am I really as good as that person? |
| 0:51.8 | And it just causes a lot of negative energy in your head, then this is |
| 0:56.1 | going to be a incredibly important episode for you. |
| 1:00.1 | And I'm going to share with you something that I did personally just about a month and a half ago that has made such a profound difference in my business in my life that I know can help you as well. |
| 1:11.0 | So this is going to definitely go a little longer than five minutes |
| 1:13.7 | because I haven't seen you all in a couple of weeks and I'm excited to be here and I |
| 1:17.0 | want to share with you what's happening but you know I picked this topic today |
| 1:20.8 | because it's really relevant and I just actually came off of the reason why I haven't been creating any new episodes because the last three weeks have been like absolute insanity. As many of you know and maybe some of you attended I had my biggest live event I've ever thrown it's a new concept |
| 1:36.9 | called the Impact and Growth Summit it's a new annual event for network marketers that are a part of our community and it was I mean it was so |
| 1:46.2 | far beyond anything I ever could have hoped and those of you that were there can attest to |
| 1:51.0 | it and maybe if you purchase the live stream it was truly life |
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