83 Stop Shoulding on Yourself
I Have ADHD Podcast
Kristen Carder
4.8 • 3.1K Ratings
🗓️ 24 November 2020
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
ADHDers don’t like to be told what to do. So why do we spend so much of our own mental energy telling ourselves that we “should” and “have to” do things? It’s not fun and it’s not working! Today’s episode is a bit of a smackdown. Are you ready?
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the I have ADHD podcast where it's all about education, encouragement and |
| 0:11.1 | coaching for adults with ADHD. I'm your host Kristen Carter and I have ADHD. Let's chat about the frustrations, humor, and challenges of adulting, relationships, working, and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder. |
| 0:27.0 | I'll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B. |
| 0:34.0 | Hey what's up? |
| 0:38.0 | This is Kristen Carter and you are listening to the I Have |
| 0:42.0 | ADHD Podcast episode number 83. |
| 0:45.0 | I am medicated, I am caffeinated and I am ready to roll. |
| 0:51.0 | Today we are talking about the shoulds and the have tos and I'm going to beg you to please stop |
| 0:59.6 | shoulding all over yourself. It's not effective, it's not fun, and it doesn't get you the |
| 1:05.8 | results that you want. No more, no more of that. But before we get there, I got some happy mail |
| 1:14.9 | and I wanted to share it with you. |
| 1:16.3 | I want to shout out my client, Deborah. |
| 1:18.8 | She's in focus. |
| 1:19.8 | She's so kind. |
| 1:21.0 | Here's what she said. |
| 1:21.9 | She said, Kristen, I am in all of the work that you teach. |
| 1:27.3 | I've had many coaches, Tony Robbins, Denslow Brown, and many more, |
| 1:32.0 | and I've never found someone who can really get to my brain like you do. |
| 1:37.0 | I am so glad, I repeat, I am so glad that I found you, |
| 1:41.0 | I am moving along far faster than ever. |
| 1:46.0 | Deborah, thank you. I love you. You're so kind and I'm so glad to have you in focused. |
| 1:53.4 | Guys, if you're not in, what are you doing? |
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