Hello and welcome to the new mindset hootis podcast. My name is Case Kenney at case.kens.k on

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you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

fulfilling life. Let's go.

Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right, welcome to episode 810. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset, Who This. As always, thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to talk about the counterintuitive

reality of life as I see it, which is that people who need the least receive the most.

I'm not talking about not needing a lot in the relationship. I'm talking about how you show up in life socially with other people around you,

getting introductions, being helped by other people.

I've become really interested lately in kind of the science and the soul of social magnetism,

how to show up in a room and be full of such great energy to be on such

an aligned frequency that people just intuitively come to you and they want to know you and they

want to help you. And what I've come to realize and I'm really interested in the research as well

is that the fastest way to become a magnetic person is to stop trying

to attract people in the first place.

And that might sound counterintuitive.

Of course, we live in a culture that's obsessed with optimization.

We want to optimize ourselves into oblivion so that we become magnetic, right?

We do it on social media. We do it on our dating profiles.

We do it on our resumes on LinkedIn. We try to do it with our body language, with what we wear,

with our personal brand, right? How often do you hear that? Your personal brand. We do all the things.

We read all the books on charisma and eye contact and negotiation tactics and being

more confident. In some sense, we're either taught or we've come to create this assumption that

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