Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host.

Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, how are you all the weather here in New York is glorious so of

course I'm about to get on a plane and head out of town I actually is a little

known fact about me I have a psychic ability to subconsciously

predict the one week per season that the weather will be perfect here and then I

book a trip out of town. Several months ahead of time. So I'm going to San Francisco to see some good friends,

celebrate my birthday. Then I'll be going to Dallas to teach some of my coach students

and meet with my brilliant mastermind and I'm just super excited for this trip even though I leave for the airport in like an hour and I'm not done packing

That's just how I roll and also there's a dog on the street that's barking a lot and you might hear it because I can't wait and

record this another time. All right so we have no time to waste I got a pack

let's get down to it some weeks this is just how it rolls. So I think that we basically have two modes of

interacting with the world and that's what I want to talk to you about. That includes other people, things

that happen to us, even ourselves in our own brains.

And those two ways are curiosity and judgment.

So most of us spend, I think, about 95% of our time in judgment and about 5% of our time in curiosity.

And I think the goal of thought work is to flip that proportion.

Now for all my lawyers and engineers trying to calculate the exact numbers right now

those are not scientific percentages. I'm just saying we spend a lot of time

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