782 - How to talk yourself INTO the life you want

New Mindset, Who Dis?

Case Kenny

Inspiration, Relationships, Mindset, Education, Society & Culture, Wellness, Self-improvement, Selfhelp, Personaldevelopment, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Motivation

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🗓️ 5 March 2026

⏱️ 13 minutes

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In this episode, I talk about the power of two words - "I can't" vs. "I don't" - and the power they have in your life. My new book "The Opposite of Settling" is out now! Instagram: @case.kenny

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to the new mindset hootis podcast. My name is Case Kenney at case.kens.k on
0:07.2	Instagram and this is my weekly podcast where I create short no BS episodes dedicated to helping
0:13.0	you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and
0:17.9	fulfilling life. Let's go.
0:49.1	Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right, welcome to episode 782.
0:51.0	Hello, my friend.
0:55.6	Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset Who Dis, as always. Thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to talk about words because there is a conversation
1:01.4	happening inside your head right now. And it's probably the same conversations that's been happening
1:07.6	there for quite some time. And it's a conversation around two very specific
1:11.9	words. And it narrates your choices. It justifies your choices. It writes the story not only of
1:17.9	who you are, but who you'll be. It decides, sometimes before you even decide, what's possible for you,
1:24.4	what is impossible for you. And I think a lot of us don't examine it,
1:28.4	the power of two very specific words. But two researchers have, and I want to reference their
1:33.6	work here around something that I think will be really, really useful. The research goes like
1:38.8	this. Vanessa Patrick from the University of Houston and Heinrich Hagvet from Boston College. In 2012, they ran a series of
1:48.1	studies where they gave people different scripts for talking themselves out of temptation.
1:55.0	One group was told to say, I can't give in the temptation. Another group was told, I don't give in to the temptation.
2:03.9	So that was it. Just two simple words, simple words, same meaning on the surface, but wildly different
2:09.4	results. The I can't group really struggled. The I don't group held firm. But the finding that really matters came at the end of the study after everyone thought
2:21.2	the study was old over, right?
2:23.3	After it was over and the participants were leaving, they were offered a gift of, hey,
2:28.4	do you want a chocolate bar or do you want a granola bar?
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