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All The Wiser

77. The Incremental Steps of An Abuser

All The Wiser

Kimi Culp

Society & Culture, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.9652 Ratings

🗓️ 25 January 2023

⏱️ 82 minutes

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Summary

When Tom asked Kate to move in with him after dating for three months, she was thrilled. He seemed really into her and wanted to make her life as a single mom easier. But once they were married and had a child together, things got dark. Her “too good to be true” husband became jealous, controlling, and ultimately, deadly. Kate Ranta shares the warning signs and red flags that just might save the life of somebody you know. 


In this episode:

  • Recognizing red flags in a relationship.
  • The incremental steps of an abuser.
  • Intentional isolation and possessive behavior.
  • The intoxicating effects of love bombing.
  • A broken system.
  • The role acceptance plays in the healing process.


Stay connected with Kate:

Websites: kateranta.com 

Book: Killing Kate

Charity Donation: www.lovelifenow.org


Additional resources:

https://ncadv.org/

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.bradyunited.org/

https://www.gunsdownamerica.org/

https://bocarecoverycenter.com/treatment/trauma-informed/

https://bocarecoverycenter.com/addiction/addiction-domestic-violence/


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1:02.2

that we'll be talking about gun violence and domestic violence. We do our best at Aldaweiser

1:08.7

to talk about harrowing stories with thoughtfulness and care,

1:13.6

but we also recognize that certain topics like this one may be more sensitive to some listeners.

1:21.0

So if that is you, then feel free to skip this one.

1:25.3

We'll be here for you when you come back. Now, on to today's episode.

1:33.3

There's a term in the domestic violence community called Love Bombing, and I know he love bombed me

1:40.5

when it came to Henry, especially early on. He wanted to prove that he was going to be this

1:47.9

amazing stepdad to my child. And he did the cooking. He went and bought him a bike, taught him how to

1:55.7

release ride with training wheels, buying him things, planning things to do together, that kind of thing.

2:02.0

And then...

2:02.9

Is it like an intoxicating wave of love to suck you in?

2:07.8

Absolutely.

2:09.9

We've all seen the movies, read the books, heard the songs.

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