Hello and welcome to the new mindset hootis podcast. My name is Case Kenney at case.kens.k on

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you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

fulfilling life. Let's go.

Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to episode 753. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset Who Dis, As always, thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to do what I think is part three, because I've talked about different reasons for this before, but part three of why the breakup was necessary. I think this is powerful framing for being able to look at a scenario where a relationship

ended and it hurt and it was frustrating, but to be able to look at it objectively and to say,

okay, I see it now. It had to end. I'm grateful it ended. It needed to end. The breakup was necessary.

And it's good perspective for us all because in my

experience, breakups rarely feel necessary when they happen. Of course not. They feel unfair and

abrupt like punishment even for trying too hard or wanting too much, right? But when you're

able to look back with clear eyes, you can start to see

the truth that some endings not only were necessary, but they were long overdue. And I think

one of the most rarely acknowledged, in my opinion, reasons a relationship has to end is because

you were living in someone else's future instead of your own. That's it.

The breakup was necessary because you were only living in their version of a future, not your own.

Their version, not your own. Their future, not your future. I'll explain what I mean by this.

And I think in retrospect, you'll realize that this kind of dynamic happens and develops

rather slowly. It's not like you wake up one day and you're like, yeah, I'm just going to abandon

myself and I'm just going to build my entire life around them and what they want and their timing and

their motivations. No, of course not. Like this idea starts with small compromises over time that on the surface seem harmless.

They say they're thinking about moving to a new city in a couple of years and suddenly you stop exploring opportunities in your own city.

They say they want to get serious once work settles down and you respond by you know just bending your

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