Hello and welcome to the new mindset hootis podcast. My name is Case Kenney at case.kens.k on

Instagram and this is my weekly podcast where I create short no BS episodes dedicated to helping

you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

fulfilling life. Let's go.

Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling New Mindset Who Dis. As always, thank you so much for listening.

Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to talk about our collective human urge, our desire, the pressure we feel to define a relationship with someone we're dating, to define it with a label and to do so early on.

What are we? What is the label? Are we exclusive? Come on, let's let's DTR. And of course,

don't get me wrong. I am a huge advocate, as you know from the podcast, for having a conversation that starts with something like, hey, are we on the same page? I think it is so,

so, so important to voice what you want and to have a clear discussion about it with your

partner, potential partner, to be clear about it, to be aggressive about it, to speak to what

you want, and to ask questions to help you get clarity. Yes.

But I've also found that in a culture and in a world obsessed with this idea of DTR,

most people treat defining the relationship as this rush to get to a label as quickly as possible.

We're exclusive, we're official, we're in a relationship,

it's boyfriend, it's girlfriend, it's whatever. Because we think the label will bring you the

clarity that you want. The label is the clarity. Just got to get the label. Get the label and the

rest will take care of itself. We think the label will be the thing that will say, okay, well,

we're good for each other because we're both

willing to have this label, because we're both willing to be exclusive, the label will show us

where the relationship is heading. The label is the goal. Get the label and the rest will take care of

itself. But I think that's literally backwards. I think a label of what

without an understanding of how you actually operate together is somewhat meaningless. It's just a

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