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All The Wiser

72. They Raised Him and He Tried to Kill Them (Part 1 of 2)

All The Wiser

Kimi Culp

Society & Culture, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.9652 Ratings

🗓️ 2 November 2022

⏱️ 72 minutes

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Summary

A few years after adopting baby Matthew, it became clear to Tom Boulet and his husband Ken Coll that something wasn’t right. Matthew had severe behavioral issues and an oppositional, defiant nature that had him bouncing from school to school. Still, Tom and Ken left no stone unturned to get Matthew the care and treatment he needed. After finishing high school and attending a few years of college, Matthew returned home one summer and attempted to kill both Tom and Ken, stabbing them a combined 31 times in the middle of the night. After a miraculous recovery, Tom and Ken share reflections on parenting a child with mental illness and how they found meaning and purpose and a renewed devotion to each other amid tragedy. 


This is a two-part series. Part two will be available on November 16th, 2022


In this episode:

  • Raising a child with mental illness.
  • Learning to ground their relationship in friendship.
  • Clarity of purpose and direction on the other side of pain.
  • How to honor and heal each part of ourselves after a traumatic experience.
  • The role forgiveness and humor play in recovery.


Stay connected with Tom:

Facebook: Tom Boulet

Instagram: @TomBoolayinLA

Charity Donation: Crisis Text Line


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Transcript

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0:00.0

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everything secure. I can say in my relationship with Ken, when you're together with somebody

1:01.6

as a couple for 30 plus years, you hit bumps in the road. This is Tom Boulet. He and his husband

1:09.8

Ken are in their late 50s.

1:12.3

They met in San Francisco in the early 90s.

1:15.9

We learned long ago that arguing was not going to solve those bumps in the road,

1:21.2

but instead going back to what we were grounded in would.

1:24.4

And that was to remind ourselves, we like each other and we're friends.

1:28.0

And whatever's in front of us is not bigger than that.

1:31.5

Tom says he knew pretty much right away that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Ken.

1:38.0

Ken was going through a divorce with his wife, and his job brought him to the Bay Area frequently.

1:46.1

They had a local friend in common and hung out a few times. After a few months, he called to visit, and they were busy, so they

1:54.4

called me to ask if I would babysit him, and I said I would gladly do that. And he never went back

2:00.0

and visited them again.

2:03.9

Ken had the type of upbeat and positive energy that Tom was drawn to.

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