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you become the person you're meant to be, leave your comfort zone and live a purposeful and

fulfilling life. Let's go.

Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to episode 719. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset Who Dis, As always, thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, I want to talk about the feast you deserve, aka the opposite of the crumbs, you may have been convinced to accept as good enough. The crumbs that someone keeps offering you. So yeah, I kind of want to talk about breadcrumbs. I want to talk about being able to look at those things, those behaviors, and to say,

those are crumbs. No, thank you. So let's start with that. You know, what are breadcrumbs?

We've done many episodes on breadcrumbs over the years here, but let's, let's reignite the conversation.

Crumbs are bare minimum disguised as effort. Crumbs are bare minimum disguised as effort.

They are the short text, the vague compliments, the last minute plans that make you feel

chosen in a sense in the moment until you realize later on that they're

not reciprocal in any sense that you're not being prioritized by them crumbs are what people give you

and they want to keep you close but not close enough to commit it is an illusion it's an illusion

of connection of compatibility without the depth that's required.

It's flirting without follow through.

It's talking without walking, right?

And sometimes, whether it's super insidious and manipulative or it's just human nature,

crumbs aren't about love, they're not about respect, they're about control. Someone wants to insert control on you by keeping you close, but not too close. And the really tough part about crumbs and why I want to do a whole episode on it is they're satisfying enough for you that they just keep you hungry for more. And that's why you stay, but you can't. And it's the trickiest thing because when you're hungry like you might be for real intimacy when you're excited for real potential when you have leaned into possibility small little gestures crumbs can feel like a full meal and you do the human thing where you start to convince yourself that well a little bit is better

than nothing maybe this time they'll show up maybe this time the crumbs will lead to more but they

rarely do right because someone who genuinely cares they won't bring crumbs they'll bring the full

plate and the full plate is time and energy and consistency and presence crumbs are offered by

people who want the benefits of being with you but not the responsibility of committing to you

you deserve more than that so for this episode i just want to outline a couple of things that are

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