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The Art of Charm

716: 8 Tips to Keep the Conversation Going

The Art of Charm

http://www.TheArtOfCharm.com

Business, Health & Fitness, Education

4.7 • 11K Ratings

🗓️ 13 August 2018

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

How do you take a conversation to the next level and create real connection? In this episode of The Art of Charm podcast, AJ and Johnny explain 8 fundamental steps to develop a relationship beyond just a brief interaction with a stranger on the train, scoring a number at a bar, or a handshake at a business conference. Learn the social cues, the mental tricks, and the right body language to tee up a compelling conversation. The 8 Steps Take from the following article - 8 Insanely Effective Ways to Connect with Anyone You Meet 1. PAY ATTENTION - It’s simple but so easy to overlook. *What are a few ways for you to lock into a conversation? 2. SEEK FEEDBACK - From trusted friends to tell you the truth on what you can improve on. *Can you think of someone who you can talk to about this? Call them tonight! 3. ASK QUESTIONS - What’s everyone’s favorite topic? Encourage people to talk about themselves and share their experiences with you to create understanding. *How can you show someone your genuine interest in who they are? 4. REMEMBER YOUR NAME - What’s the best way to remember someone’s name and how can you use these tools during your next night out? 5. DON’T PRETEND YOU KNOW EVERYTHING - It’s the biggest turn-off of them all! *In fact, what’s one of the best ways to create a seamless and empathetic connection to turn someone one and create a connect? 6. CARE ABOUT OTHERS about others! Show appreciation for the people around you and let that bleed over into all areas of your life. *How can you create grateful positivity to spread over into your environment? 7. SEE A ROOM FULL OF FRIENDS - Visualize that at your next outing — treat no one like a stranger. *What’s one of the reactions that we have by becoming uncomfortable in a new environment? **REMEMBER: This takes practice! If you expect everyone to treat you like a friend, you might set too high of an expectation, so take it in stride. 8. CONNECT IN PERSON. As much as we might want to, we can’t truly connect online! But it’s easy to be afraid of the risk and rejection of meeting in person. *In what ways can you pivot your body language to show true interest to someone you’re meeting in person? This was a big episode, but don’t get overwhelmed! Focus on finding that one genuine friend and go from there. And remember: Humans are naturally bad at active listening, so don’t beat yourself up if you find yourself struggling along the way. Through these podcasts, we strive to give you daily hacks for your life that you can use to overcome the whims of your primitive mind and truly connect with the people around you! Check out our bootcamp page to learn about the Art of Charm’s personal training! The Art of Charm Bootcamp Resources Articles from this episode! 8 Insanely Effective Ways to Connect with Anyone You Meet - “Lifehack” How to Make Friends, According to Science - “The Atlantic” Keep up with The Art of Charm The Art of Charm Challenge The Art of Charm Insiders The Art of Charm Bootcamp Best of The Art of Charm Podcast The Art of Charm Toolbox On social media: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Want to RUN A HALF MARATHON in your Halloween costume with AJ and Johnny in LA? Register now! Enjoying what you hear? Your reviews are essential to us and for those who haven’t discovered The Art of Charm podcast yet. Click here to share your Art of Charm experience.

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Articharm podcast. I'm AJ and I'm Johnny. We're glad you've joined us.

0:05.2

For those that are new to our show, you'll find that in each episode of the Articharm,

0:09.1

we strive to inspire a conversation that'll make you a more connected, more confident,

0:13.5

and ultimately a more high value individual. Last week in our toolbox episode,

0:17.9

we tackled the challenges of getting the conversation started. And also ways you can make

0:22.4

the person you're talking to feel more easy in that conversation. Well, this week we're going to

0:27.1

dig more into the science behind compelling conversation by looking at two articles about how to

0:32.5

engage with strangers and develop long lasting relationships. Yes, because the next business

0:38.0

partner, mentor or romance can be sitting right next to you. So how do you strike up that conversation

0:43.2

that can help lead to a more meaningful relationship? So kick back or start doing your laundry and listen.

0:57.2

So this month's topic as we covered last week is compelling conversations. And we wanted to kick off

1:09.6

this episode. We're going to be diving into a fun article or a listicle here around how to connect

1:14.4

with people and really define what we mean by compelling conversations. What does that mean to you,

1:19.2

Johnny? First of all, we want to get the doors open and we've been talking about that. And I think

1:23.6

if it goes back to the first impressions episode with a great first impression, it gives you a wide

1:29.2

window of opportunity. And then we had talked about getting things started. And now

1:35.1

showing some interest, letting them know that you're curious about them, getting the conversation

1:39.6

moving. And I think this is the opposite of small talk, right? When people think about conversations

1:45.6

and getting nervous about what to say and what not to say, a compelling conversation stands out,

1:51.6

it makes you memorable and it opens the door to connection. That's what we mean by compelling. I know

1:57.6

a lot of times we overestimate what that means. And there's fireworks in our head. And it means

2:02.1

saying the perfect things at the right time. That's what we're talking about here. It's a window

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