714 Being Nice to Avoid Conflict Isn’t Nice, It’s Controlling - Here’s Why
The Terri Cole Show
Terri Cole
5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 6 May 2025
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
Are you a nice person?
Do you think it’s possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict?
In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it’s not great for your relationships.
In this episode, we’ll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and how to shift your behavior to authentic niceness.
Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/714
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| 0:00.0 | Well, hello there and welcome to this episode of the Terry Cole Show. |
| 0:04.4 | I'm so psyched that you are here. |
| 0:07.6 | All right. |
| 0:08.5 | So I'm going to ask you a question. |
| 0:11.1 | Are you nice? |
| 0:14.1 | And let me get more clear. |
| 0:16.3 | Are you too nice? |
| 0:19.4 | That is what we're going to be breaking down and deconstructing and analyzing in today's |
| 0:25.4 | episode is really breaking down. Is it possible to be too nice? And what does that look like? And what can |
| 0:35.8 | you do to be authentically nice and not too nice? That is what I'm |
| 0:41.7 | covering in this episode of the Terry Cole Show. But before we get into it, I just want to say, |
| 0:46.7 | oh my God, hi. Thank you. You guys, we have over 700 shows of the Terry Cole show. Can you believe it? And in September, |
| 0:55.8 | it's going to be my 10-year anniversary. So we're planning something fun and groovy. But without you |
| 1:01.0 | guys, there would be no Terry Cole show. So I just need to say thank you, thank you, thank you. |
| 1:07.6 | For spending time with me, for being loyal, for sharing the show with your friends, for writing |
| 1:12.5 | five-star reviews, for writing comments, for all the things that you do. Because my desire, |
| 1:20.9 | you know, positive world domination, as many people as possible, helping them less in their |
| 1:26.6 | own suffering and elevate their own joy. |
| 1:29.3 | And you guys are really a part of that mission. And I couldn't do it without you. We are regularly |
| 1:36.0 | ranking in the top 20 or top 25 in mental health and iTunes, which is amazing after all these |
| 1:42.7 | years. We're still ranking. And that's really because of you. |
| 1:48.0 | So if there was no you, there would be no Terry Cole show. So I just want to say thank you. |
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