brokenhearted, feeling like the world is over, convinced you'll never meet anyone else.

Trina's breakup boost will help heal your heart and get you back in the dating saddle.

She'll give you straightforward opinions and advice for your love life.

The topic of today's episode is, stop holding on to hope that you can change someone.

It's so common for a person to stay with someone in the hopes that they will magically

morph into their ideal partner. For example, if only they had a better job, everything

would be so much easier.

If only they were more romantic, we'd be happier.

If only they could communicate, our palms would disappear.

You get the point.

But here's the thing.

When you meet someone, you need to take them at face value.

Not what you want to see and not what you hope to see.

People are who they are.

You cannot mold them into your idea of the perfect person.

And sure, you may be able to influence their clothing or hairstyle a bit.

Sure, you may be able to get them to compromise on what type of movie you will watch, but those are surface layers. You cannot change the personality of someone.

Again, people are who they are. So many times, people are constantly saying, if only they were like this, if only they did this,

if only we had this,

as if there's just some missing piece

that would make their relationship turn into a fairy tale.

And honestly, these people are fooling themselves.

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