Words are only proxies for meaning. They point to a concept that is beyond the word itself.

It's an abstract concept. What you're saying is that I can say the word love because I know what the word love means and you know what the word love means.

We are on the same side. We both want to be good stewards of our money, but there can be conflict that rises if we spend outside of our budget or we're not aware of what we're spending.

It's not you wasting my money. It's us as a household consuming more than we've thought or more

than we should. The more I start working up myself about something you've done or offended me,

the more I'm going to see it misconstrued. I'm not going to see it very clearly. But the faster we are

to forgive, the quicker we are to repent. Like don't let these little things take away from you the reality that

you are on the same side. We say often, so what is marriage, right? Marriage, it's a shadow of

things yet to come. The marriage and the unity of Christ's bride with her bridegroom, Christ

himself. And here we have a savior who has seen us in our lowest and still chooses to love us,

chooses to forgive us, and never once turns us away.

If I'm harboring on forgiveness, that's no longer the issue of the sin person who's sinned against me.

It's now my issue.

Selina, strong marriages are built on habits and routines.

Amen. Baked in to the very life of your marriage.

And I think so much of what we bake in to this cake that is the Fredericks. It comes by habit.

It comes by things that we've just kind of learned to do over the 20, how long have we been married now?

22 years.

22 years this year.

So today we're going to get very, very practical and just give you seven things that you can say to each other daily that in turn can become those habits that would then form the very

cakeiness of your marriage.

So anyway, we'll see you on the other side.

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