Hard is bad when God is not the context within which the heart is happening.

Other words, it will crush you.

And so a hard thing becomes a bitter thing and a bitter thing turns into death.

Well, and actually, hard things can lead to deep and good blessings.

We shouldn't be afraid of that.

We shouldn't.

There's no reason to cower from that.

A marriage is one of the primary means by which God sanctifies human beings.

Being married, you get all kinds of blessings and benefits, but it also opens the door to more conversations and challenges and sanctification. A lot of people, they are in a serious enough relationship where they should get married, but they don't because they have these myths in their mind that may be inhibiting that effort.

I think when it comes to money, it's most helpful to view money as a proper

tool that accomplishes certain specific tasks. Money is not a tool that can solve the emotional

and communication problems in your marriage. If you're a selfish person, God wants that selfishness out of you.

Now, if you're a selfish person and you're single, that selfishness may be able to flourish a lot longer.

Brian, when we got married, what did you think marriage to me was going to be like?

Frankly, I was, I was stoked.

I was, like, I envisioned, like, building life together. Now, there was a certain amount of trepidation I remember standing there's a park on 72nd street called the wapitow park

remember that I remember going out and there's a dock on the on a lake out there and I remember

standing on that dock thinking what am I doing after I had we were engaged okay it's just it hit me and I thought you know what what else I doing? After I had, we were engaged. Okay.

It was just to hit me.

And I thought, you know what?

What else?

Like, this is my girl.

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