Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot glass because let's face it who's got that much time

these days.

I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass,

you've come to the wrong place.

People think therapists have perfect relationships and that is completely not true.

I am and I am proof of that.

Yes we have studied theories and acquired tools, but we are also human,

which means we have our own stories. Just because we coach people with relationships

doesn't mean that we don't struggle with them

ourselves. So in the last decade I've been in two long-term relationships, a few short-term

relationships, actually I think three long-term relationships a few short-term relationships actually I think three long yeah

three long-term relationships a few short-term relationships lots of dating a long

stretch of no dating than more dating.

I've been in fulfilling relationships and some not so fulfilling relationships and I've

been catfished and rejected and confused and also pleasantly surprised. I've been present. I've also been in my head. I've been

judgmental. I've been open. I've been narrow and I've been conflicted.

All right, but through this journey, I've had some revelations and I would like to share them

with you, partly because they may help you, but mostly because I need to get this

shit out. All right, so you can be my therapist today. Here are some of my

learnings and I'm gonna give you seven of them but also know that you

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