Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self-betterman into a shotglass because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose.

If you're looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Here are 10 absolute truths about relationships and it's not just from coaching people

with relationships and because I'm a therapist it's also things that I've been pulling from my own experience and love journey in the last, I don't know, 30 years or so.

That means that I've been learning about love since I was 16. Yeah, that sounds about right. So for the last 30 years. All right, so number one is if you're not making mistakes, you're not taking enough risks.

And by mistakes, I don't mean cheating.

I mean doing things within the boundaries of the relationship with good intention to grow and learn and then taking responsibility for them if they were not healthy, right?

So if you do something that falls under the category of not healthy or toxic or whatever because no one's

perfect actually taking responsibility for them. So sometimes we're so

obsessed with being perfect. We forget that mistakes are how we learn, especially in relationships, you know, and if

you're someone who's a perfectionist, most people that I've coached who are perfectionist struggle the most in relationships because you're

only 50% and no matter how, no matter how, quote unquote perfect you are, it doesn't mean that the relationship is going to be perfect, right?

There's so many other layers and factors in every relationship that you have no control over.

So what you do have control over is yourself and you have to

to throw this idea of being perfect out the window.

You're actually supposed to be making mistakes.

And I mean, not on purpose, but allowing yourself to be you and by making these mistakes and then taking

ownership and wondering you know why that happened and where that came from you are actually evolving and growing

and bringing more to the table in your relationship. All right number two,

expect anything worthwhile to take a long time and I think that with relationships

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