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In today's show we're talking about the impact that complaining has on how you see your spouse and your marriage and

Theodore Roosevelt had this to say about complaining complaining about a problem without posing a solution is called whining

I kind of like that little thing on the end of that there's been a little bit of that over the years in this house

I would think just a little I shouldn't say I would think I know. Yeah, that you can make that a declarative statement

We're gonna be talking about complaining in today's show, but first we start every one extraordinary marriage show with a hug and a hug is really an

Opportunity for us to to give you that virtual high five. That's right. Yeah to say great job on what you're doing for your marriage

And this hug comes from a post that was in the one-family Facebook group that starts with I bought this six pillars of intimacy book and workbook

And I have a husband who in all caps hates reading a few things. I've learned in this process one

You will absolutely gain even if it's just you that does it it changed my way of thinking

Which is really the first thing that needs to happen before you can move on to changing your marriage

It gave me great insight into the destructive patterns I have

To instead of forcing him to read the book, which would have just led to resentment on his part

Self-awareness. That's a good thing. We spent some time together each night going over what he called the highlight reel

The sections I had highlighted highlighted in the book questions that are meant for your spouse out of the workbook

And the notes I took in the notes section of the workbook. It was great

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