#694: Feeling Left Out? Here's How to Handle It Like a Pro
The Confidence Podcast: Mindset Coaching and Tips to Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs, Self-Doubt, Perfectionism, Overthinking, Impostor Syndrome and Insecurity
Trish Blackwell | Life Coach, Confidence Coach, Mindset Coach
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 10 March 2026
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
Ever felt the sting of not being the first pick?
Not the favorite friend.
Not the chosen one.
Not the one selected.
In this episode, we break down why being overlooked feels so personal — and why it triggers deep insecurity around belonging, worth, and identity.
You'll learn:
* Why your brain turns social moments into identity conclusions
* The hidden fear behind comparison and rejection
* How to separate facts from the story you're telling yourself
* The mindset shift that builds stable, internal confidence
* How to stay socially confident even when you're not chosen
If you struggle with people-pleasing, comparison, feeling intimidated, or overthinking social dynamics — this episode will change how you interpret those moments.
Confidence isn't about being first.
It's about being grounded — regardless of where you rank.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | There's something that no one often admits bothers them, but it bothers us all and more than that |
| 0:05.8 | it happens to each and every one of us. And that is being overlooked, being excluded, not being |
| 0:12.9 | the first pick, or whether it's intentionally or unintentionally. You're not the favorite friend. |
| 0:19.1 | You're not the one invited. You don't get the second date. You don't get the callback for the casting call or the interview. And you tell yourself you shouldn't care. You tell yourself it doesn't matter. But if we're being honest, it stings in a really specific and unique way. It's different than rejection. It's being forgettable. It's this confirmation of our deepest, |
| 0:41.5 | darkest internal fear that maybe I'm not enough. Maybe I am forgettable. Maybe I am replaceable. |
| 0:49.6 | And even saying that devastates my heart. And today we're going to talk about what to do when this |
| 0:55.7 | happens, not if it happens to you, but when, because part of our experience in this beautiful |
| 1:01.4 | life that we have is the complicated relationships with other humans and the intentional and |
| 1:07.4 | unintentional hurt that will occur. And I want to teach you today how to not |
| 1:12.4 | personalize that, but to normalize it and how to move forward with confidence. |
| 1:17.7 | Welcome to the Confidence podcast, your go-to space for high-performance coaching, |
| 1:22.8 | designed for ambitious, high-achieving individuals who want more out of life. |
| 1:29.3 | You deserve the confidence that rises to meet your dreams. |
| 1:32.2 | This podcast will help you activate it fully. |
| 1:35.2 | I'm your host, Trish Blackwell. |
| 1:37.3 | Let's get started. |
| 1:39.6 | Hey guys, my name is Trish Blackwell. |
| 1:42.0 | Welcome to the Confidence Podcast. |
| 1:43.5 | You're seeing to episode 694 when you're not the first pick. |
| 1:48.7 | And it stings more than you want to admit. If you are new to the show, welcome. I'm so happy you are here. |
| 1:56.0 | If you are an OG and you've been listened for over 12 years. I love you. |
| 2:01.7 | And thank you for the privilege it is via voice of encouragement in your life. |
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