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Thank you. live a purposeful and fulfilling life. Let's go. All right. Welcome to Episode 673. Hello, my friend. Welcome to a fresh new episode of New Mindset, Who Dis As always, thank you so much for listening. Thank you for supporting me. And today, two things we need to stop misreading as romantic

chemistry, aka we need to stop chasing dopamine and we need to attract depth instead. And for

context to start, I have a feeling that you might relate to this if you've ever been

single, and you came across someone out and about, maybe at a coffee shop, for instance,

and they were really nice to you.

They seemed flirty because they were so nice to you, and they seemed into you because

they were so nice to you.

And you were like, wait a minute, are they into me?

Should I make a move? A.k.a. the classic, does the barista want me to ask them out phenomenon?

I don't know if you relate to this. I think a lot of guys do, right? The classic thing with the guy is,

you know, she's being nice, aka she's flirting with me, she wants me.

And, you know, as funny or awkward or annoying as that might be to be on the receiving end of that or to be someone who makes the move because someone was just being nice to you, regardless,

it speaks to a larger, call it misconception that we all have.

That is, we mistake certain things to be signs of romantic

chemistry. And in this instance, specifically attractiveness and kindness are two things that we tend to

frequently misread as romantic chemistry. Someone's attractive, someone's kind, the dopamine,

the oxytocin from that,

well, you know, chemistry. And the reason for this, as a review, is that the effects on the brain

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