So when you're constantly negating it yourself, I do this many times a week now, especially at night,

when you're like stepping in a patient mama, focus on being patient.

Make sure that you're staying calm, take some deep breaths, and all I want to do is just scream

on the inside. Because you're trying to tell yourself to do something and you're like, no,

this resistance to what I'm actually feeling right now when I keep pushing against it,

it's making me feel a lot worse and it's bottling up this energy and it's going to come out bad at some point.

I'm Amy and I'm Abby and as women, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.

But your life isn't supposed to look like hers. Being your best self means standing firm in your

decisions and always being willing to grow with a purpose. We get vulnerable and real with an

honest look into the challenges and triumphs we all face. Every woman listening gets the opportunity

to choose what life looks like for herself. Today we wanted to dive into the topic of

toxic positivity. In the American culture, we definitely value positivity, but the question lately

has been, have we taken it too far? The phrase toxic positivity showed up on my radar in the past

couple years and today we wanted to dive into what it means and what it means for us as women

that are trying to navigate life. So I read an article in preparation for this episode and it

was entitled toxic positivity, the dark side of positive vibes and that was written by Samira

Quintero who is a licensed marriage and family therapist and Jamie Long who is a doctor of psychology.

Here's a quote from them, we define toxic positivity as the excessive and ineffective

over generalization of a happy optimistic state across all situations. The process of toxic

positivity results in the denial, minimization and invalidation of the authentic human emotional

experience. Just like anything that is done in excess, when positivity is used to cover up or

silence other parts of the human experience, it can become toxic because we're not allowing

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