I'm asking for advice on my relationship for around three years.

For most of the relationship, my boyfriend and I,

we've had a pattern of getting into an argument every few weeks and they're making up.

And that's kind of been the normal, but lately it feels that our communication issues

kind of get worse, the longer they are unresolved.

Like it's sort of like, if you don't fix something, by default, it gets worse,

the longer the issue is there. That's what I feel like. Um, if I had to get more and more

bitter, I'm trying to break the cycle. Some of the things we've tried our, uh, reading communication

books together, analyzing what went wrong and, um, being vocal. We're pretty good at analyzing and, um, analyzing things in wrong and being vocal we're pretty good at analyzing and

analyzing things in retrospect and like you know what when it when it comes to being

analytical we're okay but I feel like in the moment when things get heated that's

when we can't control and sort of you know the psychology knowledge it goes out the window

so yeah these things have been helpful but and sort of, you know, the psychology, you know, it goes out the window.

So, yeah, these things have been helpful, but I feel they're incremental, and I'm afraid the relationship,

it's getting worse, faster than it's getting better.

And, yeah, I'm hopefully looking for some advice or insight on that.

Yeah, good for you for reaching out for help.

How old are you guys and how long have you been going out?

Yeah, so we're at, we're from mid-20s.

We've been going out for about three years.

So we've been long distance. So let's say we've known each other for about five years. So we've been long distance.

So let's say we've known each other for about five years.

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