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Soul Gum

6 Warnings No One Gives You About Changing Your Life

Soul Gum

by Victoria Hutchins

Philosophy, Society & Culture

4.9560 Ratings

🗓️ 16 March 2025

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

We romanticize big life changes—quitting the job, moving to the dream city, chasing the thing we’ve always wanted. But big changes have big side effects. And if you don’t see them coming, they might just send you running back to the life you were trying to leave behind. In this episode, we’re breaking down six warnings I wish someone had told me before I changed everything. If you’re craving a big shift, let’s make sure you’re ready for it.


EPISODE OUTLINE


00:00 Intro 

01:45 Life update + tour!  

05:52 6 warnings about changing your life 

06:14 1. It will not automatically make you happy

07:44 Harvard happiness study

08:34 The hedonic treadmill 

9:54 2. You will have an identity crisis  

10:12 Ship of Theseus 

11:40 3. You’ll probably feel stuck

12:04 Diamond Example 

13:12 Change happens at tipping points 

15:31 4. It never stops feeling vulnerable

15:55 Asch conformity study 

17:18 The neuroscience of fear & hope

19:43 It’s only embarrassing if you’re embarrassed

22:33 5. There’s no magic pill 

24:32 6. You’ll feel torn between who you were and who you’re becoming 

24:52 Janus, the Roman god of transitions

27:18 Lightning round recap


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EPISODE LINKS


⁠⁠⁠⁠Ship of Theseus 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Harvard happiness study

⁠⁠⁠⁠The hedonic treadmill 

⁠⁠⁠⁠Digging for diamonds cartoon

⁠⁠⁠⁠Janus: the god of doors, gates and transitions

Transcript

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0:00.0

There are big side effects that come with drastically changing your life.

0:05.5

And if you're not ready for them, they might just send you running back to the life you were

0:11.3

running away from. Let's talk about it.

0:16.1

Sogum. Welcome back to SoulGum, the self-development podcast with philosophical, psychological, and literary flair.

0:24.4

I'm your host, Victoria Hutchins. My goal is to give your soul something to chew on. And today, we are talking about the warnings no one gives you about changing your life.

0:39.4

We've been talking a lot lately about making big changes, whether it's quitting a job,

0:46.2

moving to a new city, leaving a relationship, starting on some big dream.

0:52.7

And if you click this episode, maybe you are someone who is seeking big dream. And if you clicked this episode,

0:54.6

maybe you are someone who is seeking big change,

0:58.5

or you're preparing for a big change.

1:01.7

And that is beautiful, and it's brave.

1:05.8

And I want it for you.

1:07.4

I want it to be everything you hope it will be.

1:14.0

But I also want you to be prepared.

1:21.1

Because change, even when it's good change, change you've been craving and wishing for and working towards, big change has big side effects. And if you don't see them coming, they might make you think that you've

1:30.1

made the wrong choice. They might throw you off track. So in this episode, I'm going to talk about

1:36.0

six warnings. I wish someone had told me before I completely changed my life.

1:44.9

And that feels like a good segue to give y'all a little life update.

1:48.6

I normally don't do that, but I want to today because y'all make believe comes out in two days.

1:56.5

I can't believe it.

1:58.1

If you're new to SoulGum, MakeB Make Believe is my debut poetry collection. I left my

2:03.4

career as a corporate attorney about a year and a half ago to be a writer and a content creator

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