Basically, to give you some background, I'm a 44-year-old married woman. My husband's 46, and we have two daughters, age two and a half years, and four months. We've been married for three years, and we're going out for about six in total.

So, although I love my husband very much, at the moment, I'm struggling. We have a few areas of constant and continuous conflict.

And addition to that, my husband will directly address whenever he has an issue.

I find this constant criticism awful. I'm very difficult to take. And I have a tendency of getting, taking innocuous remarks such as the kitchen

is cluttered as a personal attack. I'm also not very good at directly addressing my issues. I tend

to not be honest here and then I tend to get more and more resentful as time goes on and then I get

irritated and then I get irritated.

And then we have a big blowout.

Becoming snippy, saying hurtful remarks, which leads to more and more arguments.

Basically, I want this to get this sorted.

It's not fun for me, but particularly I don't want my kids growing up in an environment like this.

So basically, I was just hoping you could help.

Yes, I'm certainly happy.

I'm certainly happy to help.

Is this a relatively new phenomenon?

Has this been part of your relationship forever end and on or has that been?

It has been more or less there from the start. And to be honest, it is over time, surely getting better. We've both been working on it. And rather than progressing, it's regressing.

But having listened to you, you say very similar things to what my husband says,

but I find it a lot less painful to hear it from you.

So I thought that you might be able to point me in the right direction as to understanding exactly what it is

that's going wrong with myself. Because right at the beginning, I had just absolutely no clue what was

going out on. He'd like, to me, it was like he was blowing up out of nowhere. And I'd be sitting there

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