All right, a couple more questions.

Somebody wrote to me,

it's a quote from me, withholding truth from your father is treating him like a hysterical woman.

Yes.

So then says, well, after many years of silence between us, I have attempted reconnecting

with him this year and after months a pointless small talk I finally got to a point this weekend

of actually telling him an uncomfortable truth and even though

I did so with the utmost tact and respect he still blew up at me and threw a bunch of

verbal abuse my way. Sorry about that.

Thanks Steph for preparing me for this moment. In the past it would literally crush me to face his anger because, of course, he knows all my weaknesses and isn't afraid to attack him in its rage.

As disappointing as it is, to realize that apparently he hasn't grown at all in the last 20 years.

Well, it's an overgrown path here.

And it's still prone to draw tantrums like a child at least.

Now I have my answer and I can stop guilt tripping over myself what if he's right?

He's not.

All he's doing is acting out my mom's anger about losing her influence over me and refusing to do her bidding for her.

My disappointment is immeasurable, but at least I am free.

My disappointment is immeasurable, but at least I am free.

Well, that's a very deep and philosophical statement, my my friend and I'm very glad that you made it because you have to be able to process massive disappointment in order to gain your liberty, right? So if you look at something like the American Revolution, they finally

gave up on trying to get justice from King George and went about, took matters into their own hands. So yeah,

disappointment and liberty are one of the same. You have to be able to give up hope in order to avoid being manipulated because basically what manipulators do, what abusive people do is they're in the process

continual process of holding out hope, right? So if they can get you to hope,

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