What's going on, everybody? It's episode 523 of the genius life. Let's go.

What's going on, everybody? Welcome back to the genius life. What's going on, everybody?

Welcome back to The Genius Life, a show where we usually talk steak, steps, and sleep.

But today we're tackling the one recovery tool I've never actually tried, a mother-in-law.

I'm your host, Max Lugavere, and my guest today's Dr. Tracy Dalgley.

She's a clinical psychologist,

couples therapist, an author of the delightfully provocative, you, your husband, and his mother.

Full disclosure, I'm not married, I have no in-laws, and I still had to ice my nervous system

after reading a few of her case studies. But the stakes here are actually huge. Connection is a

longevity lever. And apparently 86% of couples admit

they've argued about the mother-in-law. So if your family group chat is basically a UFC

undercard, well, this one is for you. Today, Tracy breaks down the hidden dynamics that

torpedo relationships, especially around holidays, why closeness doesn't always mean healthy,

and her five-step vault method for setting boundaries like a team without turning Thanksgiving

into a hostage negotiation. We'll hit in-law triangles, productive distance, yes, you're

allowed to sleep on it, and how to stop solving your partner like a math problem, and start

actually connecting. If you've ever whispered, we're fine while Googling how to peel a carrot the right way. Stick around. This episode will save your Sunday dinners. But before we dive in, if you love the show, please consider following and subscribing, leaving a rating and a review on your podcast app of choice, and share this with a friend who's already stress prepping for the holidays. It helps more than you know. And just a quick plug before we get started. My free weekly newsletter is where I unpack the latest and greatest research, share health tips, and drop exclusive discounts. No spam, all signal. Join 120,000 plus readers at max lugavir.com slash newsletter. All right, fault doors are locked. let's get into it with dr tracy

douglish here we go dr tracy douglish welcome to the show how you doing i'm well thanks max

for having me thanks for coming out the uh the title of your book is cheeky actually you your

husband and his mother and uh i'm not married but, but I gather we're going to cover some really

interesting topics that are far outside of my wheelhouse. So I'm excited to, uh, to dive in.

Amazing. And thank you so much. And I, I just love the topic. I love the title because it really

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