If you shut down your partner's opinions, you are not creating a safe, vulnerable space for you to connect.

People think if I agree with my partner, then we go deeper. That's not true.

But don't also try and disagree. Listen, let them express.

And instead of jumping to your conclusion to defend your point of view, ask, why do you feel that way?

Where did that thought process come from? How do you think we could avoid that?

Could I ask you if you could ever see that differently? These are great questions.

Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world.

Thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen, learn and grow.

Now I know that you want to build deeper, more powerful, more fulfilling relationships.

But it's not always easy. And it can be really, truly challenging.

There can be so many new issues, new discoveries, old trauma, old baggage that comes into a relationship that can affect it at any point at any time.

And today I want to discuss the methods to improve intimacy, to stop a relationship from getting boring or breaking.

It's so often isn't it that a relationship in the beginning is full of sparks. It's full of excitement. It's full of that chemistry.

We feel that attraction, we feel that positive flow of energy. And then a couple of years later, and a couple of years after that, we forget that that even existed.

And maybe now there's someone else that we're feeling a bit of attraction or chemistry towards.

Maybe we're not, maybe we're not feeling it at all. And we want it back with this person. Here's the thing.

If you're at breaking point or you're at boredom or you want to learn how to build intimacy, this episode is for you.

Those are the three things that we experience. You either need to learn how to build intimacy or your board. And therefore you need to know how to build intimacy or you're at breaking point.

And you need to see whether there's any intimacy at all.

Now, I'm going to read the dictionary definition of intimacy because I think even these words need to be better defined. You can hear me googling away to check it for you. Intimacy means close familiarity or friendship, closeness.

Now, when you hear that, you think actually familiarity is the thing that makes relationships boring. It's actually what causes the issue.

So what is the difference between intimacy and familiarity? Intimacy is the feeling of closeness.

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