5. Shame Spiral
Overcome Pornography for Good
Sara Brewer
4.9 • 730 Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2021
⏱️ 19 minutes
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Summary
In today's episode we talk about shame spirals.
It's important to stay connected to your emotions because your emotions cause your actions. Shame is not a useful emotion when it comes to quitting pornography or other habits. Shame always causes you to hide and avoid. Many people believe that shame is a motivator, when in fact it is the opposite. It is a de-motivater. You can not hate yourself into change.
Shame comes from thoughts, not from looking at pornography. Shame comes from thoughts that have the underlying message of, "there is something wrong with me".
We find ourselves in shame spirals when we 1. thing something is wrong with me 2. feel shame 3. hide and avoid. 4. view pornography to escape the shame --> and then starting the cycle all over.
Join me in todays episode to learn how to combat this shame cycle!
Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, episode five, shame spirals. |
| 0:06.3 | Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, |
| 0:12.0 | trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. |
| 0:17.0 | This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. I'm your host, |
| 0:23.5 | Sarah Brewer. Well, hello, you guys, welcome to the podcast this week. So glad that you're here. |
| 0:31.4 | I love, love this podcast. I love doing this podcast. And thank you for being here. I was going on to my podcast on Apple |
| 0:40.3 | podcast just to check it out. I was going to grab a review to read here at the beginning of this |
| 0:44.6 | podcast episode and I saw that there were 92 ratings, which is crazy. If you follow me on |
| 0:53.1 | Instagram, you'll see the other day I posted that my goal |
| 0:56.0 | was to get 50 ratings when I launched. And here we are. We're at 92. And when I posted just yesterday |
| 1:02.1 | or a few days ago, it was at 70 something. And I was just blown away that I was at 70 something. |
| 1:06.8 | And I just looked and it was at 92. And I can't believe believe it and I'm so, so grateful. It just feels a |
| 1:14.1 | little bit silly for me to say I'm so grateful because it is like more than that. Like, |
| 1:18.2 | you guys are my people and I love you and thank you for showing up for me and leaving some |
| 1:23.9 | reviews and some ratings on this podcast. These reviews and these ratings, they help |
| 1:27.8 | this podcast reach more people. And so thank you so much for doing that. I wanted to share one that |
| 1:32.6 | stood out to me. It's from Jennifer. She says, as a coach myself, I think Sarah is one of the most |
| 1:39.5 | intelligent and effective coaches I have ever known. Her method and teachings are rock solid and I am convinced |
| 1:45.6 | she can change the life of anyone who struggles with pornography. I'm so thrilled she has a podcast. |
| 1:50.8 | I have already been recommending it and will continue to do so. Thank you for this incredible work you |
| 1:55.4 | do, Sarah, for this tremendous resource. Thank you for being here and thank you for leaving that |
| 1:59.4 | review. Man, thank you. |
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