You're listening to the place we find ourselves podcast. I'm Adam Young and today I am joined by

J Stringer, who is a therapist in Seattle and the author of a fantastic book called Unwanted.

How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. Let me begin with a quote from the book,

J writes, I do not believe that sexual fantasies are something to condemn.

I'm not saying that I'm a victim. Sexual arousal is one of the greatest gifts God has given to us and we do not need to spend a lifetime

annihilating it. There is another approach. It begins by listening to our lust.

J Stringer, today we are talking about how your story can help you understand your current sexual struggles.

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Thank you for listening and here is my interview with J Stringer.

All right, welcome everyone. I'm joined today by J Stringer. J, it's good to see you.

Good to see you too, Adam. Say a little bit about where you are geographically and what you're doing there.

Yeah, I live in Seattle, Washington, Pacific Northwest and I am a therapist and ordained minister here in Seattle.

So and you've also written a book which I found incredibly meaningful, incredibly helpful and we're

going to spend most of our time talking about it. It's called unwanted. But before we get into the book,

can you share a little bit about just your own journey coming to find out about your story? When did

you learn that you even had a story and what prompted you to begin engaging it? Sure. So I mean,

I remember being in Seattle and someone just asked me about like what I have, you know, my first name is

Jay. So often that gets the is your is your name Jason is your name Jared is it short for something

and I just say my name is Jay. Jay why? And then someone asked me what my middle name was and my

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