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Episode 49, should my teen socialize with unvaccinated friends?

It's starting to feel a little bit more like fall now.

We are transitioning from summer.

Pumpkin spice season, as we call it in Ohio.

Totally pumpkin spice season already.

You know, we have this annual pumpkin carnival and we're able to do it this year, which is so

exciting. And I'm also hopeful that we'll get vaccines for kids under 12 by the end of the year,

waiting on that. We got a question in from a listener who was talking about socializing

with unvaccinated friends and what to do. It's such a good letter. Dear Dr. Lisa, I've listened to

almost all of your shows and look forward to them every single week. I'm dealing with a circumstance,

which I know many other parents are probably grappling with. What to do when a teen's close friend is not

vaccinated? My daughter's almost 13. She's an only child, but very, very extroverted, gregarious, and

loves people. And this last year with remote schooling has been very difficult for her. We've kept

her isolated for the first part of the pandemic as my husband is in a high-risk category, and we did not want to expose further risk. As soon as she was permitted, we vaccinated her and resumed a pretty normal life thereafter with visits with her best friend who she adores. Her friend has not been vaccinated, although she is eligible. Her parents have both been vaccinated,

so we're extremely puzzled why she is not. We live in the deep south where there is a high

community infection rate. The friendship has somewhat cooled off as I have not invited her to our

house. I am concerned that this will really impact my child who has few friends in the first place.

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