This is Self-Work, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At Self-Work, we discuss psychological and emotional issues and what you can do about them,

whether that's learning self-acceptance, taking action, or seeking therapy or treatment.

Eight years ago, I extended the walls of my practice to reach those of you who might already be

knowledgeable about middle health treatment, but also to those of you who might say you'd never

darken the door of a therapist. And yet, you are here. I'll answer your questions while I invite

you to take a few minutes for your

own self-work. There's a saying, it's pretty commonplace around the mental health arena

these days, when someone shows you who they are, believe them. I think Maya Angelou said it,

but I'm not sure it originated with her. So, do you do that? Do you believe

someone when they show you who they are? Maybe you do, but it can be hard to do. Welcome to this

week's edition of self-work. Disappointment. It's a feeling in between hurt and shock. Why? Because you may expect

one thing, but then you receive another. It doesn't quite shock you. Maybe it wasn't totally

unexpected, and it doesn't crush you. It's not traumatic. But it's still something that many of us

feel and some of us feel a lot.

So if you're constantly struggling with disappointment in yourself or in others,

what can you do about that?

As always, here on self-work, we're going to ask that question as many times as we need to so that you feel more empowered in your life.

Some disappointment is normal, of course.

You don't always win the prize or get

what you are striving for, whether that's a job or a grade, a promotion, or a relationship moving

ahead. But what do you do with that feeling? And is it possible that you're setting yourself

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