Hello, my beautiful beans and welcome to the podcast episode of today.

This episode is a topic that I hold very close to my heart because it is something that has

woven into so many episodes throughout the last, I can't believe I'm about to say it,

six years off my podcast. Shout out to the OJ Beans who've been here for the last six years.

And shout out if you're brand new today. Love you so much. Thanks for joining.

And the topic is comparison and competition. One of my first ever episodes was about comparison and how comparison will kill you and all of that. And it was literally, I think, like one or two months in. And I thought I should really revisit a lot of the things that I spoke about in that episode and across many of the episodes around similar topics, because

it is something that once you are able to get a really good grasp of how much you are comparing

yourself, how much you are competing, and I'm not talking about healthy competition, obviously

if you're in competitive industry, if you are competing within sports, that's very different

to what I'm referring to. I think it goes without saying, obviously. More so when you're competing for something that has to do with your self-value and self-worth, when you're competing for the love of someone, that kind of stuff. Okay? So once you really can, as I talk about it, you're going to start to identify, oh my God, I do that. Oh, she's made this episode for me.

She's really speaking to me.

Once you start seeing these, you know, identify these and you see it as patterns within your life,

that's the golden moment where you're able to then do something about it and change how you

approach certain things in your life.

You're going to see how you can still be in a

position where normally you would be comparing yourself and it would be causing you to feel

small, insecure, cause self-doubt, cause, you know, self-esteem issues. And you could then learn

about that, learn about why it is that you're suffering and why it is that you're competing and you'll be able to be in the exact same position, but not feel that way, not feel threatened, not feel attacked, still be able to celebrate other people's wins and genuinely want the best for other people without feeling like there's less for you.

I think one of the issues where a lot of people struggle is I want to be

happy for the people around me. I want to see other people succeed, but deep down, and I hate to admit

it, and you probably never admit it, but deep down, when I see my friends do well, find love, buy

their first property, get a really good paying job. While I'm not even close to having those things in my life, I deep down, part of me wants a part of them to fail. Like I feel like, fuck you, why can't it be me? We, after the end of this episode, not only are you going to not feel that way anymore, you'll be able to celebrate other people's wins, but you're going to start seeing success for other people as more of a possibility

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