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questions to ask Lisa at dr. Lisa demour.com 47, should teens be allowed to drink at home?

I kind of miss having people over, like large gatherings at home, entertaining.

When I was a foreign correspondent, in Jerusalem, I had a girlfriend. She was a

home mom. Her husband was the Reuters Bureau Chief. And she threw the best parties like on a

Wednesday night, just invite people. And I felt so European, isn't it? Like, okay, it's a school

night. Come on over. We're going to do a barbecue. Yeah. That sounds wonderful. I miss that.

I mean, not that I was doing big parties on Wednesday nights, but I missed people and parties.

She was the ultimate entertainer. And I have to tell you, one thing she always said was, she's from Croatian.

She said, you know, I started to drink and have a sip with my grandfather when I was like

13. So drinking wasn't a big deal. And we always had this talk about how in America,

drinking is such a big deal, and it should just be a gradual part of sort of life and not a big

deal. And what stood out to me, Lisa, was this letter that we got in our inbox and it says,

Hi, I have listened to all your podcasts and loved Untangled as well. And even if I feel like

the week's topic of your podcast might not apply to me, I'm always able to take some gems of

wisdom away from it. So thank you. I'm writing today with a question about my 16 and a half year old

daughter and drinking. My husband and I are on different pages when it comes to underage drinking.

He wants her to become comfortable with alcohol around us. That way, we can be sure nothing bad

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