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The SelfWork Podcast

469 SelfWork: Understanding the Fears and Faces of Borderline Moms

The SelfWork Podcast

Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.81.3K Ratings

🗓️ 24 October 2025

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

Today, we'll be covering two distinct and contradictory fears of those having borderline traits. We'll also focus on four different categories within the borderline framework that Dr. Christine Lawson uses in her fantastic book, Understanding the Borderline Mother. Her whole approach is so that you, as her adult child, can learn how to have a relationship with her – with certain guardrails put in place. Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp and use my code betterhelp.com for a great deal: https://www.betterhelp.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0

This is self-work, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

0:10.3

At self-work, we discuss psychological and emotional issues and what you can do about them,

0:15.7

whether that's learning self-acceptance, taking action, or seeking therapy or treatment.

0:21.3

Eight years ago, I extended the walls of my practice to reach those of you who might already be

0:26.1

knowledgeable about middle health treatment, but also to those of you who might say you'd never

0:31.3

darken the door of a therapist. And yet, you are here. I'll answer your questions while I invite

0:37.1

you to take a few minutes for your

0:39.1

own self-work. If you're the one who identifies as borderline, there are treatments and DBT

0:46.6

Dialectical Behavior Therapy is the best treatment that we know of at this point. It's very

0:51.0

goal directed and teaches you how to hook up your mind with your tendencies

0:54.7

to be too emotionally governed. Both your thoughts and your emotions are important, but your

1:00.2

impulsivity and tendency to way over-personalize has to be corrected. And it can be. Welcome to

1:07.5

this week's edition of Self-Work. Today we're focusing on what are termed borderline traits, as well as different types of

1:15.0

borderline personality disorder.

1:17.0

The National Institute of Health, or NIH, states, this disorder is associated with considerable

1:22.4

functional impairment, intensive treatment, utilization, and high societal costs. The risk of self-mutilation and suicide is high.

1:31.3

In the general adult population, the lifetime prevalence of borderline personality disorder has been reported to be from 0.7 to 2.7%.

1:39.8

While its prevalence is about 12% in outpatient services and 22% in inpatient psychiatric services.

1:48.3

There are many people, primarily women, who struggle with it, without knowing what to call it.

1:53.5

In fact, it wasn't even a diagnosis until 1980, but that certainly doesn't mean it wasn't real before that date.

2:00.2

There's a commercial on TV these days for a store. I think it's a foot store. In it, the spokesperson who's a smiling, slightly overweight, older guy says, I was born with a sunny disposition. And he goes on to say that he lost that disposition when his body started hurting. I think he said something about his knee. But poof, as soon as he put the foot thing with the arch in it in his shoe, he was back to his old self, sunny and happy. Wouldn't it be

2:22.4

nice if all dispositions would be that easy to fix if there were some orthotic device that would

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