This is self-work, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work, we discuss psychological and emotional issues and what you can do about them,

whether that's learning self-acceptance, taking action, or seeking therapy or treatment.

Eight years ago, I extended the walls of my practice to reach those of you who might already be

knowledgeable about mental health treatment, but also to those of you who might say you'd never

darken the door of a therapist. And yet, you are here. I'll answer your questions while I invite

you to take a few minutes for your

own self-work. Well, and there's sometimes where my kids are acting like fools that I will say to

them, I am so angry right now. I don't want to take it out on you. I'm going into another room.

You know, like that is another version of showing them emotional regulation, right?

And that doesn't mean I got to this calm Zen place.

I'm still in my emotions.

I'm just not going to put it on them.

Welcome to this week's edition of Self Work.

Our guest on Self Work today is Dr. Whitney Casares, author of Doing It All, Stop Overfunctioning,

and Become the Mom in Person You're meant to Be. But when I read her words, I knew I wanted her on

the show. She's a pediatrician, a mom executive, and she gets it. And I quote, modern parents and especially modern moms are doing it all

all the time. More than any generation before them, they face conflicting unrealistic

pressure to excel in their careers, maintain Pinterest-worthy homes, and parent with perfection

simultaneously. They're exposed to more and more unrealistic messaging

about what it means to be a good mom via social media and clickbait news articles. Moms are more

likely than ever to be in an executive leadership roles professionally. As members of the sandwiched

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