This is self-work, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work, we discuss psychological and emotional issues and what you can do about them,

whether that's learning self-acceptance, taking action, or seeking therapy or treatment.

Eight years ago, I extended the walls of my practice to reach those of you who might already be knowledgeable about middle

health treatment, but also to those of you who might say, you'd never darken the door of a therapist.

And yet, you are here. I'll answer your questions while I invite you to take a few minutes for your own self-work.

Your ability to feel more securely about attachment can change. It can be lowered by hurtful relationships, trauma, loss, bad stuff that happens, meaning you get less secure.

But it can be increased by being in relationships with secure people who aren't perfect, but know how to interact with you, have their own sense of security, given your tendency to be needy or stay the hell away at times.

Welcome to this week's edition of Self Work.

One of my favorite things is to check in with my producers, John Crowley, who's also my audio engineer, and Christine Matthias, who's also my communications manager.

I have a great team.

But I love to hear the episodes they really like or, for some reason, want to share again. We call this second time

around. I'm still on vacation. So here's Christine Matthias with her episode for self-work.

Thanks, Dr. Margaret. I hope you're having a wonderful time on vacation. It's definitely very

much deserved, but you're missed here. Can't wait till you're back.

Hi, everyone.

I'm super happy to be here with you today because I'm very excited about this week's second time around.

The podcast episode is about attachment styles, which is basically how we relate to others,

how we connect on an emotional level with them.

When we first aired this episode about two and a half years ago, I was just fascinated.

And I even learned something about myself. See, back in my 20s, I had some work to do.

I mean, where was self-work back then, right? And this episode helped me understand myself on a different level. I would now describe myself back then as having

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