445. Coaching Hotline: Feeling Trapped at Work & Compassion for Other People's Brains
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.5K Ratings
🗓️ 2 December 2025
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
In this Coaching Hotline episode, you'll hear two listener questions that will feel familiar if you have ever wondered why your new thoughts seem to “stop working” or why believing you can handle future challenges feels harder than it should. I break down what is really happening underneath that experience so you can see it with a lot more clarity.
I also talk about the mental spiral that happens when someone else’s unmanaged mind feels irritating, and why that reaction is more revealing about your own thought patterns than you think. If you have ever felt stuck between what you know intellectually and what your brain insists on believing, this episode will show you how to shift that dynamic from the inside out.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to unfuck your brain. |
| 0:05.0 | I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. |
| 0:11.9 | I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. |
| 0:21.3 | Let's go. |
| 0:24.8 | Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners |
| 0:31.2 | and coach you from afar. |
| 0:33.6 | If you want to submit your question for consideration, go to unfuck your brain.com forward slash |
| 0:39.5 | coaching hotline, all one word, or text your email to plus one 347-997-1784. |
| 0:48.2 | And when you get prompted for the code word, it's coaching hotline, all one word. |
| 0:52.6 | Let's get into this week's questions. Here's the first |
| 0:56.6 | question. Hi, Kara, I love your podcast, the mental exercises you teach to change your thoughts. |
| 1:02.1 | I have been insecure about my work for several years. I usually, quote unquote, feel trapped at work. |
| 1:08.0 | Now I know that quote unquote trapped is not a feeling, it's a thought. My feeling is a |
| 1:12.2 | combination of sadness and dread. I've been using your podcast for the last few weeks to change my |
| 1:17.2 | thoughts about work because I want to enjoy my work and I need new thoughts to enjoy it. I usually have the |
| 1:22.1 | thought, I am not smart enough to learn new things. I've been using your tool regarding evidence-based |
| 1:26.8 | approach to disprove the |
| 1:27.9 | thought. For example, I did graduate university with a degree, or I have learned difficult, |
| 1:33.2 | technical things, and applied them at work. These new thoughts helped me temporarily, but seem less |
| 1:37.8 | effective after a few days. In your Confidence Podcasts, you mentioned that evidence-based approaches, |
| 1:43.5 | like doing an accomplishment |
| 1:44.3 | list is a great place to start, but then we have to start thinking about challenges that |
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