#44 Happiness – "Kindness" is a Key Ingredient of Change
Happiness Podcast
Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.
4.5 • 955 Ratings
🗓️ 23 June 2014
⏱️ 14 minutes
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Summary
If we want to be happy, we have to work towards changing our "unhappiness" behavior and thoughts. Kindness is the key ingredient to bring about this change.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. Can we think about a time where we've made |
| 0:16.6 | a mistake and wish we could have done it differently? I'm sure we all have times like that, where we hurt someone or we hurt ourselves. |
| 0:26.6 | It's really part of being human to hurt. |
| 0:29.6 | We do that sometimes. |
| 0:31.7 | But the question in this episode is how do we bring about the most effective |
| 0:35.5 | way to stop doing that? How do we create change to stop hurting others and ourselves? How do we do it? First off we have to acknowledge |
| 0:46.4 | that we're really good at being self-critical. I mean we're really good at it. |
| 0:51.2 | When we make a mistake, oh my goodness do the Dagers come out. They come out and |
| 0:57.1 | they stick us so many times in so many different ways and it's all through our mind. When we mess up, we are so self-critical. It's almost |
| 1:06.9 | insane, but we're so used to it, we almost don't even notice it. And let me use an example that I think many listeners can relate to. |
| 1:17.0 | Weight. When we put on those few extra pounds or sometimes a lot of extra pounds, we get on this soapbox of being incredibly |
| 1:26.8 | self-critical. We look in the mirror and call ourselves names, we feel our body and are very self-critical, we notice what other people are looking |
| 1:36.0 | at and think, oh, they must think I'm a fat blob. But guess what? This self-criticism works. It makes sure it almost guarantees that we're going to |
| 1:46.5 | stay corpulent, heavy, because we all day long are hearing negative things. Actually, we're just hearing things all day long are hearing negative things. |
| 1:52.8 | Actually, we're just hearing things all day long. |
| 1:55.8 | And thoughts are incredibly powerful. |
| 1:58.4 | So if all day long we're hearing that we're that, that, that, that, guess what, when it comes the end of the day |
| 2:05.0 | and we're ready to resist that dessert. |
| 2:07.0 | Good luck, because all day long, |
| 2:10.0 | our thoughts have been critical of our weight. |
| 2:12.0 | Remember, thoughts are incredibly powerful and the most |
| 2:16.6 | powerful thoughts are our own because they're the ones we hear all day long. And if we want to bring about change we have to do one very important |
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