Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. Life is amazing. It has its

ups, its downs, it has its successes, it has its failures, it has its joys, it has its sorrows, it has its bliss, it has its agonies. Life has so many

different aspects to it. But the one thing about life is that it is, with all our

efforts, it is sometimes quite unpredictable. We just don't know how life is going to turn out and we can work it really

hard at trying to figure it out and prepare for it. But no matter how hard we try, sometimes life

sits back and changes the course that we're on, sometimes quite

shockingly. But today we want to look at how can we deal with these changes. After all, we put a lot of effort into preparing

for the future. Sometimes we go to college for years. Sometimes we're married to someone for decades.

Sometimes we have kids that take so much effort to raise and

then things change. We lose our job, our marriages end, our children get sick and die. Things change. Things don't go the way we expect them to.

How do we deal well with the changes that life gets us and still find happiness?

The first question we're going to look at is, why doesn't it go the way

we expected? I mean, after all, I spent a lot of time going to college, or I spent a lot of time

finding my mate, and really took the right efforts it took to make

sure they were a great mate or to make sure I had the best degree possible.

And yet I'm not in my field anymore.

Or I got divorced. Or or or or this is so many factors that can change.

Why when we take so much effort to make things go a certain way, why don't they? And it's actually quite simple. Think

about weather. Weather is something that scientists really study and they study it well. And overall they can make predictions like in the winter,

there's probably going to be snow if you live in Alaska. And you live in California, in the

summer there's probably going to be much rain. But predicting a few days out, because there are so many factors

that affect the weather, we can't predict that far out. Weather people just aren't very

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