Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go.

Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners

and coach you from afar.

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Let's get into this week's questions.

Here's the first question, which I know a lot of you struggle with. So I think it's going to apply to many of you.

So here's the first question. I find myself struggling to maintain a thought work routine.

And I should just pause and say, even if you don't have trouble with this, you should listen to this anyway because it gets to something that comes up for all of us in just different ways sometimes.

I don't want to sit down and write out my thoughts.

Sometimes it's because I think I already know what the issue is, and sometimes I'm just avoiding everything and want to buffer instead.

At least I know when I'm buffering and recognize my agency and making that choice, but I really believe doing thought work and writing things down more consistently will help me. Yet I have an I don't want it that keeps popping up, like it's too much work. I know the question is not what to do, but what to think. I guess I need help with intentional thoughts that will get me to sit down and do things. So here's why I want to answer this question because whether we're thinking about

thought work or anything else, the biggest problem we have in accomplishing our goals is that

we think the feeling of not wanting to mean something or matters.

I'm going to say that again.

We think that when we don't want to do something, that that matters,

that that is something to pay attention to, that we should take it seriously and consider

whether or not to not do it, right, that that thought that we don't want to do it means something

or has some kind of legitimacy or should have some claim on us. That's the biggest mistake that we make

is thinking that not wanting to do something is kind of relevant to whether or not we do it.

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