430 - Integrating the 3 Most Critical Tools for a Betrayed Spouse ASAP

Pure Desire Podcast

Pure Desire Ministries

Sexual Addiction Recovery, Religion & Spirituality, Celebrate Recovery, Sexuality, Porn Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Health & Fitness, Aa, Education, Betrayal Trauma, Recovery, Biblical Recovery, Christian Recovery, Healing, Sa, Christianity, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 30 September 2025

⏱️ 62 minutes

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Summary

In the raw aftermath of betrayal, survival mode often takes over—leaving clarity and stability out of reach. In this episode, Eileen Fagan shares the three critical tools every betrayed spouse needs to integrate quickly in the early days post-discovery. We explore why these tools matter, what “integration” looks like when trauma is fresh, and how they can offer safety and emotional grounding even when everything feels shattered. Eileen addresses common misunderstandings about a betrayed partner’s immediate needs and gently walks us through how these tools can shift someone from panic or paralysis to empowerment and self-regulation. We also discuss common barriers to using the tools, how to layer them with care, and the difference they make long-term.

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0:00.0	Hello there, good listener. I am your host, Nick Stumbo, and you are listening to The Pure Desire
0:09.9	Podcast, your biblically based and clinically informed approach to healing from betrayal and breaking
0:15.4	free from compulsive sexual behaviors. Today is episode 430, and here joining me as my co-host throughout this series
0:22.9	is Mrs. Ashley Jamison. Ashley, good to see you again. Glad to be here as always. Yeah,
0:29.6	you've actually been on some vacation in the magic world of recording. You know, we didn't do these
0:34.0	sequentially, but you've had some time away, getting rested and renewed,
0:38.0	and you're probably ready for some time away from your kids if you're vacations or anything
0:41.8	like mine.
0:42.9	Like, this is strangely familiar to my everyday life, being with my kids 24-7.
0:47.9	Yeah.
0:48.5	Just more Sandy.
0:50.7	Yes, it was good.
0:52.7	Always good to be back.
0:54.0	And having my one day of work this week be recording podcasts is fun.
0:59.1	I love podcasts and I think this is a great series.
1:02.0	Yes, it's a highlight for us and we love the way that we can encourage others.
1:06.7	And I think that's what this series has been all about, is recognizing that when we are early in recovery,
1:13.0	we need guidance, we need support,
1:15.2	and we really have tried to focus on that in this series,
1:18.6	the first 60 days after discovery,
1:21.3	giving both the betrayed spouse and the struggling spouse tips,
1:24.8	ideas, tools of what to do to move towards recovery.
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