Friction doesn't sound good, does it? Friction between people is stressful. Friction, when it's

fabric rubbing against your skin, that's annoying. Too much friction during sex, ouch. But friction

is actually an underappreciated part of life. And in our society, we're spending so much

time and money to make our lives friction less that we're in danger of removing one of the most

fruitful experiences for growth, evolution,

and connection.

So today, my goal is to change your perspective on friction and teach you how to tolerate it,

maybe welcome it, and maybe even seek it out on purpose.

So let's get into it.

Welcome to unfuck your brain.

I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. Let's go.

Hello, my friends. So one of the biggest mistakes people make about confidence is thinking

that it comes from knowing you are good at something you're doing. And yes, this does relate

to friction, because in fact, confidence comes from being willing to be bad at things.

Confidence in yourself comes from your capacity and willingness to try and fail.

And a crucial ingredient in that willingness is the ability to tolerate friction. I'm writing

this at the tail end of a road trip that I took around France with my husband. And traveling is a

great time to think about friction, because when you travel, you consciously choose to take

yourself out of your routine, out of your

comfort zone, and put yourself in surroundings that are unfamiliar, especially if you travel

internationally to a place where you don't know the language. As we were driving around, I was thinking

about the difference between traveling now and traveling when I was younger before every phone

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