43. Resenting Your Spouse
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Ashlie Molstad
4.2 • 940 Ratings
🗓️ 7 September 2023
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
You do things your way, he does things his way. The problem is, your way is the right way and when he does it differently, you get angry.
I hear you. I’ve been you. But, in todays episode, I share how you can overcome those differences to get on the same page again. I specifically share how this has come up in my own life in regards to the way we parent. But, the message applies to anyone, in any relationship, who doesn’t like the way someone else is choosing to do things. And yet, you want peace. You want gratitude. You want to feel love towards this person you love who is doing it “wrong.”
It just takes a shift in thinking, and a decision to believe that there is more than one way to get things done… and the world (or your kids) need to see that variety.
This is something I am actively working on, so come with me on the journey.
See you inside💥
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| 0:00.0 | because I feel like it can be a little bit belittling and condescending, but I was becoming |
| 0:05.8 | resentful of him and frustrated because my thought was like, but I'm doing the research and I know that the way that I'm doing it is right. |
| 0:15.0 | So therefore when he doesn't do it my way, it's wrong. |
| 0:18.0 | But you know by now that if you're feeling resentment or anger or frustration or any of those emotions that are difficult to feel, |
| 0:27.0 | it is not ever because of the thing that happened or the person, |
| 0:31.5 | it is because of the thoughts that you're thinking. Oh, hello, hello, welcome back to In source. |
| 0:53.2 | I'm your house Ashley Molstead and we'll be hanging out together for the next 20 minutes or so. |
| 0:58.1 | We'll see. |
| 0:59.1 | We'll see how long it takes to share this message with you today. |
| 1:02.3 | Today I wanted to talk to you about something |
| 1:04.4 | that's been coming up for a while for me and that is how to parent, what even is it? |
| 1:15.1 | It's like getting along with your spouse |
| 1:18.0 | or respecting your spouse or not resenting your spouse |
| 1:21.8 | when you parent differently or have different parenting styles and agreements, right? |
| 1:28.0 | And I had talked to my therapist about this a week or a couple weeks ago or something because what was coming up for me was as an Eniagram 3 I am I wouldn't call it perfectionist in all kinds of ways, but I strive for excellence. |
| 1:48.2 | I strive to be the best at any job or role that I take on, right? So as a parent, I am constantly, I'm following all kinds of parenting |
| 1:57.1 | accounts, I'm taking courses, I just enrolled in a parenting membership to learn about things, |
| 2:02.1 | like I want to be the best parent I can be. |
| 2:06.4 | I want to be the best parent on the planet, really, let's be honest. |
| 2:08.7 | As a three, an eugram three, |
| 2:11.0 | I want to be the best parent possible in the whole planet right but the reality is I |
| 2:19.2 | can only know what is right for me and my kids and what feels good to me. But what was happening |
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