You ever realize you pick something up just by being around it, like your mama's favorite

phrases or your best friend's laugh or that one song your grandma played every time she cleaned

the house? Love can be like that too. Sometimes we don't learn love. We just absorb it just by

being in the room, especially with the men who raised us or who we were

around as kids. We often watched more than we actually were told. And if you grew up around a man

who showed love through doing, through fixing things, paying the bills, driving silently, protecting

without talking, you might have grown up thinking that was all of was supposed to be,

not soft, not expressive, not maybe not emotionally safe, just stable and quiet.

That's just one example.

So what did you absorb and how did it shape what you now accept, seek, and sometimes confused as love?

Powerful.

New things are as powerful.

You things are. What is going on beautiful. What is going on, beautiful people? You are listening to the Affirmations for Black Girls podcast where we focus on personal growth and cultivating a healthy

relationship with ourselves. I'm your host, Tara, the creative, actress, content creator,

and mental health enthusiasts. And y'all, today we are holding space. We're holding space

for the quiet reflections, the moments that may not make it into the group chat, but can live heavy in our hearts.

And I don't want this episode, or I don't want you to turn away from this episode, because it's not going to be a sad episode.

We're just going to be talking about some real-ish today. Now, I don't really talk much

about my relationship with my daddy or with male figures in my life. And I thought with Father's Day

right around the corner, I could open up the conversation. If this is triggering for you, take a beat.

Try to get as far as you can.

And if you need to stop, go ahead and pause the episode.

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