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Hi guys. So I think you all know by now how much I value accountability.

I just find it so aggravating when someone does you wrong, but owning it or taking accountability

is literally the last thing on their to-do list.

Actually, it's usually not even on their to-do list.

But yeah, instead of simply taking accountability and saying, yeah, I was wrong, yeah, I handled that badly, they start

making excuses or rationalizing or even have the nerve to start blaming you. That drives me insane.

Some people do that even when they get caught red-handed. Like you could have literal proof and they still won't on it, which just reinforces how low their IQ is.

I mean, really. So the first one is they don't want you to have the upper hand. For some people, actually,

I would say a lot of people, if they admit that they were wrong, it feels like they're handing

over all of the power to you, right? Like you can then hold this over their head. Because the second that they say,

yeah, I screwed up, that was on me, now you have validation. And now you have proof, right? Now you have a

clear reason to walk away and say, this relationship fell apart because of you. This relationship fell apart because of your behavior.

They don't want to feel like they're helping you build a case against them, so to speak.

They don't want to imagine you moving on while they sit there looking like the obvious problem.

So instead, they minimize, they deflect, they muddy the waters, and suddenly they're

trying to make it seem like everyone played a role equally, which leads right into number two.

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