409 BITESIZE | ADHD Parents: Your Child Doesn't Need a Perfect Parent
I Have ADHD Podcast
Kristen Carder
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🗓️ 4 June 2026
⏱️ 17 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, what's up? This is Kristen Carter and you are listening to a bite-size episode of the I Have ADHD podcast. I am medicated, caffeinated, regulated, and ready to roll. This little episode is one of my favorite clips from the podcast. It's perfect if you're not in the mood for a full hour-long listen. |
| 0:21.5 | Because let's be real, some of us at each years just don't have the patience for all of that. |
| 0:27.6 | But if you are a die-hard listener, think of this as your mid-week pick me up. |
| 0:32.3 | It's Thursday, y'all. |
| 0:33.5 | Friday is right around the corner. |
| 0:35.8 | If you love this clip, check out the show notes for a link to the full |
| 0:39.4 | episode. And remember, my friend, drink your water, take your meds, grab a snack. Now let's get |
| 0:46.9 | rolling. Adults are going to provide reassurance to children during distress. Okay. So when a child is |
| 0:53.5 | upset, the adult is going to move toward the is upset, the adult is going to move toward the |
| 0:56.1 | child. The adult is going to move toward the child with calm, presence, and leadership. |
| 1:04.3 | Instead of expecting the child to just be fine and figure it out for the adult's sake, |
| 1:10.1 | right? That's really like an adult-centered |
| 1:12.6 | environment. When it's like, just go to your room and figure it out, I don't have time for |
| 1:16.1 | this. That's an adult-centered environment, okay? So the adult's going to move toward the child |
| 1:21.5 | to help them to regulate and to help to stabilize them and to provide reassurance so that the child can then borrow from |
| 1:31.5 | their nervous system, borrow their calm, borrow their regulation. |
| 1:35.7 | That's co-regulation at its core. |
| 1:37.8 | Okay, adults are going to set limits without needing emotional caretaking. So they can tolerate a child's disappointment without collapsing. |
| 1:48.8 | So I can tell you no and then I can handle your temper tantrum when I tell you no. I can set a limit or I can |
| 1:58.0 | issue a consequence for something that you did or didn't do. And then I can |
| 2:03.7 | tolerate my child's emotional experience of that. So many parents kind of collapse under their |
| 2:12.1 | child's emotional response to a limit or a consequence or just like, you know, a boundary, right? And then it's like, |
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