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I am your co-host, Christina Dodson. On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberling and Nell Smith.

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So this is the podcast, we're going to be doing a mini series on four places to never get marriage advice from. So we're going to be going over these

four places that we recommend avoiding, you know, following their example and the advice when

it comes to marriage. So today's place to avoid getting marriage advice from is someone's

marriage you don't respect. Um, so Dr. Kim, why is it a bad idea to get marriage advice from

someone who's marriage you don't respect? You know, it seems like that's almost so simple. We wouldn't

even have to deal with it. But I think it's something we do. But, you know, what I would say is

people sometimes. I mean, if you're really sick, are you going to go to a doctor that doesn't know what he's doing or that you

wouldn't respect or he couldn't do a good job? So why in marriage is sometimes we go and talk to people

that really have a train wrecked marriage and we're thinking and we're getting advised for them. And so I think that just that whole concept, that's not going to do anything that's

going to move your marriage forward. That's not going to do anything to help you have the kind of

marriage that you want. There's just not anything good that's going to come from going and

talking to your marriage, been serious about things about your marriage, to someone who's just really

got a bad marriage. Yeah, absolutely. I agree. The way I think of it is it's just

like, you know, I would never have a personal trainer who's like out of shape. Like it just doesn't

make me like you're not in shape. So how are you going to tell me how to get in shape? And this

same thing for our marriage. And so and yeah, I think like the reason that it's a bad idea is if they're not

living it, they probably don't know wisdom and the good values in place to have a good marriage

if they're not living it because if they knew they would do it. And then sometimes, you know,

everyone's so awesome with like a not so great marriage might give you some like decent advice.

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