Hello and

in today's

in today we're getting a little better at life.

I'm your host, Corey Muscarra,

and in today's episode, we're going to talk about the four es of a healthy relationship.

More to come on that in a moment.

First, let's settle in together with the sound of the bells. else. Okay, so what leads to a healthy relationship?

Some would What leads to a healthy relationship?

Some would argue it's quite simple,

that it reduces to four S's, the four S's of healthy attachment.

And these Ses are safety, security, being seen, and soothed. Now these were originally used for helping parents create loving

bonds with their children but these same ideas can also be applied to a partnership, a relationship, and they form the

foundation for a healthy attachment and a loving companionship. So let's break

these down one by one. The first is safety. Now if you listen to

this podcast regularly, you know I'm a big fan of safety. I talk a lot about safety and the importance of creating an internal safety for ourselves to experience the many dimensions of our humanness.

Now this also extends to others, especially a romantic partnership, but friendships, any sort of of relationships, relationships with your children, creating a sense of

safety for them to feel like they can express the different aspects of who they are. This really in my opinion is the heart of

intimacy. I write a lot about this in my book, Stop Missing Your Life, that intimacy happens in those moments, deeper levels of intimacy

happen in the moments when more parts of us feel seen and accept it. And so it's something to consider in your own relationship

what is the quality of safety that you're helping to create for the other person

and that they're helping to create for you and having an honest conversation about this.

And if those needs aren't being met, then discussing where do you feel unsafe. There might be more extreme examples of this where it could be a

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