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Hi guys, so I was watching a reality show last night where a girl phoned out that her boyfriend

had been cheating on her and she caught him red-handed thanks to his cell phone, of course.

Then later in the episode, after it really was, you know, sinking in, she was crying and she said,

looking back, there were so many red flags. I just

didn't see them. So the key thing there is, I just didn't see them. And when she said that,

I wanted to jump through the TV and say, yes, you did. You saw them. You just ignored them.

Because let's be real, you can't call something a red flag in hindsight if you never noticed it. That would be impossible. The truth is, you noticed plenty. And there

were absolutely things that bothered you. You just didn't want to deal with them. You just didn't want to deal with those red flags.

And I know so many of you listening have been through this. You go through a breakup and you say the

same thing. I should have known better. I was so dumb. There were so many red flags. First of all,

you're not dumb. The point is you got to learn from

this stuff, though. Okay? So I wanted to go through the six reasons why I feel that people

choose to do this. They choose to just not deal with their red flags. The first one would be

attraction. I think we all know that when you are physically attracted to someone,

it's kind of scary what you might let them get away with. And the same thing goes if this person is

super successful and you are gaining in some way when it comes to being with them. So perhaps you

like the attention you get from being with them. They're a lifestyle.

Maybe they're even helping you financially, that kind of thing.

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