39. Resist, React, and Allow

Overcome Pornography for Good

Sara Brewer

Christianity, Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness

5 • 679 Ratings

🗓️ 11 October 2021

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

This week, I lay out the 3 things we can do when we feel an urge. I’m showing you how two of those options have you either acting outside of your value system, or furthering you from where you ultimately want to be, and how the third option available to you is the key to handling any urge with confidence and ease.

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0:00.0	You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast, episode 39, resist, react,
0:06.7	and allow. Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based,
0:13.8	trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of
0:23.3	lives. I'm your host, Sarah Brewer.
0:30.0	Hey, you guys, welcome to the podcast episode this week. I'm so glad you're here. So today,
0:35.4	what I want to talk about? I want to dive into the three things that
0:39.6	you can do when you feel an urge. We're going to talk about resist react and allow more in depth
0:46.1	on how to process your urges and what to do with urges when they come up. So when you fill an urge,
0:51.7	which is just another word for that desire, when you feel that desire for pornography, when you feel an urge, which is just another word for that desire, when you feel that desire
0:54.8	for pornography, when you feel an urge, there are three things that you can do with that urge.
0:59.9	You can resist it or use willpower. You can react to it or you can allow and process it. And we're
1:06.8	going to dive into all three of those. So number one, the first thing that you can do
1:11.2	is you can resist it or use your willpower. This looks like, you know, you feel the urge and you're
1:15.6	like, no, no, no, go away. Go away. You can't be here and trying to push it away. It looks like you
1:20.5	being angry at the urge or upset at the urge, not wanting the urge to be there. Oh no, I have this feeling. Crap, go away, go away, go away,
1:29.6	urge. Another word for this is willpower when we try to use our willpower, trying to resist these
1:36.5	urges to view pornography. And the thing about willpower and this resistance energy is that it is
1:42.5	temporary and limited. Okay, we just don't have enough of it
1:48.1	to quit pornography. And right, we know this. Anyone who's tried to quit porn knows that
1:56.7	resisting and using willpower doesn't work long term. But this is how most of us know how to quit
2:02.4	porn. This is probably the only way that you were taught how to quit porn. I mean, not just porn.
2:07.7	This is how most of us in the world have been taught to quit anything or to do anything.
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